In a relationship, it is very important that you get opened up to each other. But for some couples, it is still a very complicated thing to achieve. Having sexy or dirty talk is a very important part of a relationship. It is as equally important as the emotional part.
I know you want to but you can’t. Even you don’t know why you can’t get fully opened to him. So, today in this blog I will talk about the reasons why a girl can’t talk dirty to his boyfriend.
You can’t talk dirty to your boyfriend or husband because of these reasons:
1. Because you are very shy
Shyness is the core issue here. Most of the girls can’t talk to her boyfriend because they are shy about it. And it has a very high chance that you too fall into this category. I don’t know why girls feel shy about that guy whom she has committed to share every aspect of her life. If you are the one a shy girl then stops being shy. You can’t talk about these things with your dad or mom. Your boyfriend is the one where you should get totally open.
Show him what you really are. As I said above that this is a very important part of a relationship. If you are ignoring this means you are creating a pain point in your relationship and that can break your it in the future. So, stop getting shy and start trying. Trust me you love this.
2. You are not much opened up now
If you can’t talk dirty to each other means you are still in that elementary phase where you are still knowing each other regardless of how long your relationship is from. You guys are still formal in your relationship. If you want to start making your relationship little sexy then start from the base.
If you had never talked dirty to your boyfriend then don’t try it sudden. This will be awkward for both of you. Take your first step with the general flirting. You can say “Hey, I am feeling a little different today. My body is getting warm and I don’t know why. Can you do something about it?”.
This is just a basic example. I know you can do much better than me because you have the feminine soul, not me. And the teasing and sexiness are in your blood. So, start now and see the result. You will start seeing the result within a week.
3. Lack of knowledge
This is the most important reason why most of the girls can’t have a sexy talk with their boyfriend. They don’t know what they have to say about this. And I am damn sure that you also have this issue. You may know a little about this but there is always room to improve. Knowledge is the key. And if you lack this then you will ruin every romantic moment. While having a dirty talk you just have to express yourself.
You need to show him what you are feeling and what you want. What is your current situation and where you wanna be at the end? If you still confused then you must gather some knowledge about it. This Dirty talking secrets guide can help you with this. You must know all about it because these small talks can jump your relationship to the peak.
4. You actually don’t like it
Some girls don’t do this because they hate dirty talks. The reason can be anything but they don’t like it. So if your boyfriend tries to talk dirty but you don’t like them then you are in this category. You can’t do dirty talks that do not mean that you hate. Only you can know whether you hate it or there is another reason.
So, if you think that you like it but can do it then it’s ok. You can get a solution to this issue. But if you are the one who is not interested in dirty or sexy talks then you should explore the reasons to like it.
5. You think it is wrong
Some girls think having a dirty talk with their boyfriend is the wrong thing. They think that it is against their morals and values. If you think so then this is the main reason why you can’t talk dirty to your boyfriend. You have self-doubt whether you are doing wrong or right. So, let me tell you that it is totally normal. Almost all of the happy couples do this. And this is one of those important aspects of their relationship that keep them interested.
6. Fear of having a bad image
Your every action creates your self-image. Anything you do day by day makes an impact on what others think about you. And you may be afraid of this thing. You may be thinking that if you do this then it will create a dirty image of you in your boyfriend’s mind. And I will not say that it is not possible.
Yes, it is possible. Because it totally depends on your boyfriend’s thinking. What is his nature and how he sees everything? So, before doing this you can first confirm what he thinks about it. If he is totally ok with this then you are ready to go.
7. You have no idea how it feels
Some girls don’t even try to do this. They have no idea how it feels. And they are even not interested in doing this. They don’t want to experience how it feels while having a dirty talk with the boyfriend. So, if you are also one of them who doesn’t care about this then I think you must give it a try. It has a very high chance that you will like it.
So, these are the reasons why you can’t dirty with your boyfriend. If you think there is something I have missed. Then let me know in the comments.
This is bad advice. If someone doesn’t like dirty talk, they shouldn’t force themselves to explore why others like it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and sex talk is NOT healthy for everyone. For some people it’s extremely unhealthy!
Hey Venessa, thanks for your opinion. I appreciate it. Of course everyone has their own choice, and they must go with what they like. I agree with you. But this blog is especially written for those girls who wants to do it. They want to build that connection with their boyfriend. So, we are trying to help those girls so they can achieve what they want.