Guys who sex with women think that the women they’re sleeping with are orgasming but most women aren’t. Here are the 10 awesome and helpful orgasmic tips for girls.
1. Be relax
If you are a girl make sure you feel calm and relax while doing sex. I’m talking about your mental state. If you want to orgasm, you’ll first need to understand how to mentally calm or relax.
Suppose you’ll have to speak long speech but If you’re scared of the audience, you’ll mess up the speech. But if you relax, you’ll be able to get through the piece until the end.
2. Take your own time
First thing you’ll have to keep in mind that this isn’t a race. There is nobody in front of you to see how long it takes you to orgasm.
Women take longer to become aroused, to begin with, and it is ok because you are different from men, your body is different, so, just chill out. Our culture is usually based on men, no matter which culture you’ll talk about. That’s it doesn’t work for women because men have a shorter sexual response time in comparison to women.
3. Be frank
Firstly communicate with your partner frankly and tell your partner what you like and what you do not like. If you silent or shy in front of him, believe me, it is only going to confuse him. It might feel awkward to say your turn-ons and turn-offs out loud, but your words will help guarantee you orgasm from him.
4. Try Cunnilingus
Everyone is different and it is also applied in sex. Try cunnilingus with your partner. You might have an easier time orgasming if he’s going down on you. It definitely works on most girls.
5. Try longer foreplay
If you are forgetting foreplay, you are missing out on one of the best parts of the lovemaking experience. I already told you men are aroused in a few minutes but women take more time to get to the state. It is crucial because it helps the clitoris fulfill its “O” so important role. American sex therapist Westheimer says “It has the same characteristics as the penis”. Blood flows into the clitoris, and in order for a woman to have an orgasm.
6. Try to think sex thoughts
Remember one thing that “Your mind is a powerful tool you should use more often”.
If your boyfriend’s body isn’t enough for you, imagine your sex fantasy scenario with him inside of your head. It helps in your sex performance and you’ll also enjoy sex.
7. Try to be real
Be real while you’ve sex with your partner. If you show like you have an orgasm, then your boyfriend is may think that he did all of the right things. And they will do those same things again and again. It’s better to be honest, even if you’re embarrassed by the truth. So always keep in mind that try not to be fake your orgasms.
8. Talk dirty with your partner
Every guy wants you to talk dirty while sex. This is a win-win condition. Start by your side by asking him if he likes your tight pussy. Ask him what he wants to be done to his cock, should he likes when you suck or when you give a blowjob. Ask him where he likes to cum. Words have more power than touch.
9. Know your body
Masturbation is the best way to figure out what you like. If you don’t know how to make yourself orgasm. Try to masturbate first before performing sex. If you don’t know about your body sensations, likes or dislikes, then then your partner is probably never going to figure it out. You should know the way your own body works. If you’re not sure what makes you climax yet, experiment the next time you’re home alone or while your partner watches.
10. Be Comfortable
If you like you are more comfortable with lights off then turn off your lights. Or if you like you are more comfortable with romantic music or any music playing then play that music. Every orgasm comes when you completely relax so If you want to orgasm, you need to feel like you’re in a safe and loving space where you can let loose freely.
11. Use Sex toys
Kamasutra ( Hindu Ved on erotic love ) says that if you do not satisfy while having sex then you can’t focus on any other thing. You’ll have to complete or satisfy your sex desire or sex fantasy in order to overcome sex. They say you have to use sex toys and play different roles with your partner while having sex.
Like, if your boyfriend rests a vibrator against your clit as he thrusts into you. It could give you the best pleasure. Or if you want the next level adventurous sex you will have to try anal sex toys. Or if you want to feel an extremely powerful sensation, use nipple toy. They boost your sex energy into the next level.
12. Try role-play
I already mentioned above that in order to satisfy sex or have an orgasm, you’ll have to play with your sex fantasy. Tell your partner that you want some role play sex. Try some popular role play like doctor-patient, police-thief and the most important and powerful submissive and dominant(master-slave). But in order to perform role play, your partner should also agree.
13. Use your sexy sound
You’ll definitely be making a sound while having sex, it helps in orgasm. Sounds of women having orgasms changes while excitement level increases.
14. Use lubricant
You may feel uncomfortable if you’re too dry down there while having sex. A few drops of lubricant can make you wet.
15. Read Adult books or Erotica
If you bored with the same foreplay with your boyfriend seems to like it is not enough for you. Try reading some erotica related books or reading or listening to romantic books or watching your favorite love scene online or try some top porn video which will give you ideas.
16. Try new positions
There are lots of different position, every position is going to feel better than others. Some of the best position which you’ll definitely try are Doggy Style, Pretzel Dip, Flatiron, Cowgirl’s Helper, Wheelbarrow, etc.
17. Being in the present moment
The last but not least is focus on present everything will be gone if you are not in the present. The best way to focus on the present is to focus on your breath if you do not want to miss the present moment. The benefits are being on the present is you will enjoy each and everything without missing anything and your mind will also be in an aware state.
Remember when you more focused you are on reaching an orgasm, the more difficult it will be. You have to relax and enjoy yourself. Also, forget to focus on the end goal and have fun at the moment.